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What is Wellbeing ? The general definition is “the state of being comfortable, healthy, or happy”
synonyms: welfare · health · good health · happiness · comfort · security · safety · protection · prosperity · profit · good · success · fortune · good fortune ·
When we feel good, our life in many areas will feel that is going ok; we may feel reasonably fit and able to meet the different demands of the day. When we do not feel good, it can feel as though our life is not going to well.
Our body’s and mind is an amazing thing, and we need to know what to do to remain healthy happy and well.
But where do you start! You start with what area currently works for you and do an inventory of what areas might require some improvement.
You sit down with some paper and a pen and write a list of the different areas of your life. Like the picture above, or download one of the coaching wheels of the internet. Think about one area at a time.
You give each area a number. Ten feels it’s great in that area and 0 means you need to do some serious work. These numbers might be different on different days or weeks. Generally, we can give it a score that represents most of the time.
Rate that area, so if you are unhappy with the way your health is you might rate it at 5- this means there is some work to do. But before you decide what to do you need to think about what you want.
Rate each area of your life. Most people have one or two areas that could be improved. Sometimes, we focus on one area of our life for a while for a variety of reasons. But we need to introduce new things or habits to other areas.
So doing something like this monthly helps you make adjustments that can over time make a big difference.
Sometimes it’s not about doing more. Sometimes we need to do less, relax and be.
You might rate fun and work low on the scale, you then think ok how can I improve this area of my life?
Next list all the things you enjoy doing. Whether you can see it as a possibility or not or afford it. Also time doesn’t matter . Notice your excuses and ignore that inner voice and write them down anyway. Our subconscious can detect when change is in the air. It will get your inner worrier going. This is usual and designed to keep you feeling safe. You can then decide that once a week or once a month which one of those things you will try. You can keep adding to your list. The point is to get you thinking. Its helps to think what helps you feel much happier and its often linked with the things we enjoy.
Within a few months you’ve had a few new experiences. You’ve raised your enjoyment factor and should start to notice an improvement. Be warned one improvement in one area can impact other areas of your life!
Make sure you log how you felt when you did the thing that you listed. Keeping track is a tool that helps people who are prone to negative thinking, anxiety or feeling down. It stops you only remembering the times you were low but also where some good stuff going on.
Brain research shows that changing tasks helps us feel more productive. Switching tasks can reignite interest and focus. Sometimes people put too much pressure on themselves to keep slogging away. They might not realise the value of breaks and a change of activity.
If you have serious health issues, then always seek the guidance. Check with your doctor and any other professionals involved in your health care.
We can still make some small changes that improve the quality of our life and well-being.
Here are some things to consider to start with. Start with your key interest. Then explore what areas you haven’t thought about or developed
Then create a plan for the week or month. I like doing it for a week at a time. If diet and exercise are your things, then you might consider this area. If you like the esoteric and spiritual world, then you start there. If you’re a logical person you might like tools, research. You might choose to only consider things that have some evidence to them. If you’re a heart centred emotional person, you might like to go to new groups. Being with other people can help you feel more connected. Starting a course and meeting new people is a great way to practice new ways of being.
Below are some of the areas that you can consider that you can implement in your current life. Notice the areas that are working, where you feel good and then choose where you can add more value.
We need to remove ourselves from the noise of life in regular intervals.
If you struggle a bit to do this or implement and continue to develop this skill, then you can seek the help of a coach. There can be to help you explore together what you want to change and develop.
If you would like to seek coaching help, then google the coaching register. It will list people in your area and their areas of interest or speciality. You can book one session to see if it feels like something that will work for you. If you want some advice about what kind of help/service that might help then do email me.
There are several different ways to think about mental health and wellbeing. I generally help someone develop some awareness and understanding of what might be going on for them. I also look at where they can make a start or review what’s been tried. Once those areas are explored we have a general roadmap. A coachign wheel can help generate some ideas of what you want. It also helps create time frame.
After doing this exercise some people notice instant results. It is possible to feel a transformation happening, much quicker than they imagined.
Please read any of my blogs for a deeper look at the various ways to improve your health and wellbeing