The Journey Flying@50
Welcome to my blogs on The Journey (Flying@50) . The journey started a few years ago, where I left a job of 13 years, which had ended up being very stressful. It was also where I had also started to think about what I wanted and what I thought was possible. At first I didn’t really know, as everything I had done up until that point was aimed at looking after my children and managing my day job (study, working) However like most people I knew deep down that something was out of balance and not working anymore. Even though I was in the mental health field I had also started to experience high levels of stress and needed to find different tools in order to manage the day to day aspects of work and life in general. Also from 2011, I had reignited my interest in all things spiritual and this became more central to my life. My sons would be leaving home and now I could consider what I wanted the next phase of my life to look like. I didn’t really know at that point.
I first had to leave what had become a toxic environment and start to regain some health and wellbeing before I could muster up the energy needed to make other changes.
Sometimes, if we ignore the signs, changes are forced on us and we in turn are forced to move into action and consider longer terms aims and changes necessary.
It was the beginning of the process of re-evaluating my life and then taking more and more leaps into the unknown. In that process I’ve used quite a few tools to help me navigate, the sometimes-bumpy terrain and the internal process of managing the steps involved, some of which I cover here in this blog .
No matter how aware we are, how brave, how focused and determined we are, we can arrive at a point where we just don’t know what it is that we need to do next, if in fact it involves any doing. We can leave the things we don’t want yet feel really unclear about what we do want . The process moves us through different points, ignites fear and anxiety and can feel very uncomfortable overall. Sometimes we can aim so big that we come to a halt before we have taken much action. The brain likes to have things and people around us that keeps us safe, no matter how toxic they have become or how bored we are with life and the work we do. Reflecting on who we are, what we want out of life can for some, be an easy enjoyable journey or a heart wrenching process. It can leave us to question so much and without having a rudder to steer our ship in the process, we can for some of the time feel lost isolated and alone. Also many of our decisions are based on old and outdated beliefs and attitudes that worked at some time and formed the foundation of who we were but that no longer serve us .
Knowing what to do, or what steps to take, that lead to the changes that can ultimately mean higher levels of happiness, satisfaction (switching careers, moving house or even a country) can start with an internal decision- A desire to love your life. After you have made that decision, which in itself can feel like a big step, you have to work out what that will look like, feel like and be like, so that you can now shift your stressed mind towards something much more productive.
You have to create the desired future…
In the process we can be presented with a whole host of thoughts and feelings that lure us back into the known ,no matter how outdated it is for our Soul, but if our Soul and life is calling us into action we will only be able to ignore it for so long ,as I also discovered.
Like many others do, after 20 years in my field, I too knew that deep down I wasn’t feeling the same about my life and my work. I was tired stressed and often bored. My sons were now grown up and I was now in a position where I could start to think about what I wanted for me. It can be difficult to re-evaluate life, while sat on the same sofa with the same things calling your attention. So I decided it was time to go on a journey of discovery (physical, spiritual and mental)
I left my job and closed down several other activity’s I was involved with, booked a flight to France and aimed to go from France through to Italy by train and in the process possibly not only having new experiences, meeting new and wonderful people , but discovering more of me.
The blogs from The Journey, include looking at many of the themes that run through positive psychology, the law of attraction and the increased interest in all things spiritual as well as my interest in photography that had only began a year earlier .
Photography is a way I love to capture what lights me up, the mood of the place and some occasional examples of something unique .
My whole life and career has been about exploring and understanding life, Joy and pain and discovering new spaces ,places and people.
This time I’m doing it as a tourist and not a therapist ,trainer or service lead.
By sharing what I experience I hope it inspires and lights you up too , helps you think and discover more as well as helps you to consider how you approach those small whispers, change, transition and growth.
As a part of my own self development and interest in the range of tools and courses out there, that can help you grow ,expand or even transform I decided to use Tom Evans Heart-Full Living course and read his new book The Big U, both aimed at helping you connect with whats truly in your heart and grow into the person you really are.
For more details of this please follow the link or see the tab
Read my blog and if you would like to discover more sign up for my newsletter